Thanks to a reader for this head’s-up of an entertaining call on a Podcast (Episode 136) by Dan Savage (“Savage Love”).
The caller: A self-described totally out high school swimmer and water polo player in California. His whole team knows he’s gay and has no problem with it.
The problem: He has no boyfriend and his hormones are raging as he’s surrounded by all these “shirtless, ripped high school boys.” One in particular is 6-6 and a very fast swimmer. He also playfully teases the gay swimmer by slapping the gay guy’s bare chest or his thigh and affecting the “air of a cocky, aggressive d—-bag.”
All of which turns on the gay swimmer as it feeds into what he realizes is his sexually submissive side. He like being around this guy and would happily follow him like a “semi-abused puppy.”
“Is this as incredibly unhealthy as it seems?” he asks Savage. The segment is worth listening to and I agree with Savage’s conclusion. Do you?
Click here to access the Podcast page and look for Episode 136. Wait a few seconds and you can easily fast-forward to the 32-minute mark, which is when the call begins.
on May 28th, 2009 at 5:33 AM
back when i played football in high school I had to do a few weeks of rehab for a knee injury in a pool- the pool where the water polo team practiced. let’s just say the water polo locker room is much sexier than the football locker room, which smelled horrible, gave everyone fungal infections of some sort and made me just want to get the hell out of asap! i was in no hurry to dress quickly around the water polo guys, or to end my rehab for that matter!
on May 28th, 2009 at 5:59 AM
my God this was me in highschool… how fun to know I’m not the only one!
on May 28th, 2009 at 8:50 AM
I was disappointed he didn’t advise the kid to keep looking for a gay boyfriend. With all the positive gay options to meeting people (G&L centers, gay sports leagues, websites, etc.), the kid should be exploring those options, too.
on May 28th, 2009 at 10:11 AM
That was me in high school too… but I never gave myself that ‘permission slip.’
on May 28th, 2009 at 10:38 AM
Whether you’re Gay or Str8, with lots of guys or girls in speedos or bikins, W-Polo is really hot!
on May 28th, 2009 at 2:36 PM
I think Dan might be overestimating the guy’s self-awareness, and he should have taken Mike’s advice and suggested ALSO looking for a gay boyfriend, but it’s not like any 17-year-old can control whether he falls for someone. Hopefully we will get an update in the near future.
on May 28th, 2009 at 6:56 PM
back when i played football in high school I had to do a few weeks of rehab for a knee injury in a pool- the pool where the water polo team practiced. let’s just say the water polo locker room is much sexier than the football locker room, which smelled horrible, gave everyone fungal infections of some sort and made me just want to get the hell out of asap! i was in no hurry to dress quickly around the water polo guys, or to end my rehab for that matter!
on May 28th, 2009 at 11:36 PM
plagiarist!
on Jun 6th, 2009 at 8:22 PM
Haha, don’t mind him DB.
Having seen this article a while ago I linked my bf to it and he told me how as seniors last year he wanted to rip off a teammates speedo because the teammate kept teasing everyone, I guess to his own benefit, somehow? Anyway, I’m friends with my bf’s old teammate who is graduating next week and what’s funny is I my friend is completely straight, straight to the point where he is dating a girl I know.
But hey, better me than him.
/no modesty
on Jun 15th, 2009 at 4:16 PM
Guy sounds gay.
on Aug 5th, 2009 at 9:50 PM
well id be in no hurry to leave rehab either ^.^ sounds like paradise but really idk how old this blog is but id watch the guy from afar cuz if ya creep him out then you will loose a friend
on Jun 21st, 2010 at 1:47 AM
Sounds like he has a crush. So what?
A lot of straight guys in high school have their submissive tendencies too. A lot of straight guys of all ages actually.
on Nov 11th, 2010 at 3:38 PM
I have done sexual therapy with young adolescence males age 15-21 for the past 32 years. Remember These Facts:
1) Every human being is born with bi-sexual tenancies.
2) Even thee most straightest heterosexual person has had thoughts, and/or dreams, of themselves being involved in a same-gender sexual encounter.
3) In America, about 72% of males will have, or want to have, a same-gender sexual experience in their lifetime. This does not, in any way, indicate that this person is bisexual or gay, only normal curiosity.
4) A great majority of anti-gay people are either: a) closeted gay people themselves, and/or; b) are currently or have been a victim of sexual abuse, and/or; c) have had, or are in, a strong religious family background and/or strict upbringing as a child.
on Dec 31st, 2010 at 10:10 AM
That kid should be warned of sexually transmitted diseases..before he’s encouraged to “find a partner”, he probably would want to educate himself and become a productive adult at some point. His Lack of better sense says that he will be identified as another person who put either sex , drugs , or non productive behavior ahead of education and leadership role of a family.