Comments on: Gay men being friends with straight men

By: Mark

Mark — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 16:47:30 +0000

Well I’m not sure if this is an appropriate topic for me to be posting on. But I think my input could be useful to some people. I have the opposite perspective, as a straight male my best friend is gay. And i mean that whole heartedly. Out of all y soccer team mates, my own brother and cousins my gay friend is deff my bestfriend out of all of them. We do absolutely everything together, and consider each other family. I can tell him everything even things I can’t tell my sister or brother. His boyfriend is also one of my really good friends and we all get along really well. A lot of people think that when gay guys have straight bet friends that he straight friend doesn’t consider them their BEST friend but I do. So yes it’s possible hahah and no he isn’t in love with me, he liked me at first, which is actually how we became friends. He thought I was gay when we first me and he asked me out, and since then it’s become a great joke between us.

By: Nate

Nate — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 10:56:01 +0000

All of my friends are straight guys and they all know I’m gay and it has never been an issue. I don’t know–I’ve never really had gay friends (except for my ex) and I live in Boston and have lived in LA. It’s easier for me to talk to straight guys–gay guys have always been a mystery to me. When they find out I’m gay they always act surprised. One guy even said I could “pass” for straight. How do you even begin to respond to that? It hurts. The more I read about the horribly named “straight-acting gay guy” movement (or whatever) there seems to be a lot of hate thrown at guys like me, like I’m “acting” or that I probably don’t like “normal” gay guys. I’m just being who I am. This is how I was born. I was in an LGBT club in college (I’m 25 so you get the picture) and it was made known in not so many words that I really wasn’t welcome there. I love gay guys. I’m not proud I’m gay–it’s beyond that; I feel I’m LUCKY that I’m gay. I think all men are beautiful. Maybe there’s a lot of guys in my situation, maybe not, but as a gay community we should begin to realize there is no such thing as a stereotypical gay guy.

By: Aaron

Aaron — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 21:56:57 +0000

My best friend is str8 and we arent close b/c of interest in sports more with the interest in video/computer games and the same movies such as epic,scifi, and raunchy comedy he and i also have interest in martial arts as well as music particularly the piano we have been friends since kindergarten and now we’re in college he has never been religious and our bond is spiritual more than u would see in many male to male friendships but we are much in the same as bros despite being of different orientation and has never been a problem. i should also add we were in the boy scouts together and also enjoyed the theatre. I beleive str8 men being friends with gay men is no different than a white man being friends with a black men in their interests in music or golf or even an italian and an irishmen and the stigma of a man being gay for having a gay friend is on the decline and in some places dead unless u happen to go to a gay bar or make out and even at that the stigma is dying.

By: ossurworld

ossurworld — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 13:59:09 +0000

yeah, who is the pot and who is the kettle?

By: Hal

Hal — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 13:40:16 +0000

This post is from a straight man, married to a wonderful woman. I have many gay friends whom I love deeply. Further I do not have any qualms about non-sexual intimacy with any of them. One of them and I regularly greet and depart from each other with a kiss on the lips. I do not feel the least bit strange about doing this. To me it is a token of our friendship.

By: Ron

Ron — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 17:21:47 +0000

Hmm…well the whole masculine/feminine thing not only determines many straight/gay male relationships, but also many gay/gay male relationships. I know many gay guys who are not completely out who don’t have gay friends who are real feminine because they don’t want that “guilt by association” tag. They want to just go out and not have the risk of running into someone they know who doesn’t know and then have them goin back and tellin everybody “I saw such and such with a nelly queen yesterday”.

I know that even I still have this issue. But there are a lot of straight guys who definite gauge the masculinity scale of a gay guy in determining if its someone cool they will hang out with. I think for me too…the fact that you can’t tell by my talk or walk or dress that I’m gay and that I’m so into sports and outdoor activities that its really been something that has broken down walls with some straight guys who otherwise may have been hesitant to associate with me.

But, I’m sure I have and other straight guys have missed out on some great relationships with gay guys who we/they felt uncomfortable around because of their obvious gayness. Its just all about your own security and what you feel comfortable with. Thats an insecurity of mine that I am still working on.

By: Brad Young

Brad Young — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 14:28:24 +0000

know*** (not now)

By: Brad Young

Brad Young — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 14:26:44 +0000

I have had a very very good gay friend since high school im straight and when he came out not a lot of people in HS accepted him after that and i didnt care at all hes such a cool cat we wont ever not be firends…who else am i going to get advice about my pictures or how i look before a date or what to wear or say to impress a girl (not that i dont already know but they now more!!!) if your confident and comfortable with your sexuality then why should it matter if your friends are gay straight lesbian metro black white anything …My friend and i from high school and are still good friends and hes a gay model and he has me comment on his pictures to and i have no problem with that my girlfriend loves it LOL
-Brad

By: Allen

Allen — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 07:00:34 +0000

Dan your a douche bag! that was stupid and you must be gay to or you wouldn’t have visited this site now wink to that

By: TJ

TJ — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 03:48:20 +0000

Interesting posts, I live in NYC and have ONE gay friend and I am out. My best friends happen to be straight and that’s just the way it is. Being in a predominately Black fraternity has made lief all the more interesting, but when my fraternity brothers ask me to be God father to their children it says a lot about them.

I have been the best man at two weddings in the last three years, even did the whole bachelor party thing in Vegas, (lots of lap dances that did nothing for me). I think true friendship transcends sexuality, I can talk about anything with any of my friends without judgement or a raised eyebrow, they even come to gay bars with me.

I don’t selects my friends based on their sexuality, but based on their heart and ultimately, LOYALTY!