Helping
one woman discover her past Adoptee
looking for gay child of a pro football player
Outsports.com
Editor's
note: Susan Guest contacted us in July and asked for our
help in locating her siblings. She was adopted, and one of
the few hints she has gotten about her family is that one of
her half-siblings is gay and is the children of a
famous football player. If you have any leads or
information, please contact Susan right away
(email and number below).
To all gay
sports fans,
I just
learned I have a half brother and sister who are gay, and
they are the children of a famous pro football
player! Will you help me find them?
Secrets eat
at the soul, and living a dual life is no longer acceptable
to me, which is exactly what being born into one family, but
being raised by another, is. Adoption can be a good thing
when there is no way to keep the child with his or her
original family, especially when that child’s grief and
confusion over losing their first family is acknowledged,
and the differences between the child’s natural tendencies
and those of the adoptive family are encouraged with
delight. But I believe everyone has the right to know their
biological background. Even puppies come with papers!
I was born
and given up for adoption in 1963 and have recently begun
the search for my birth family. In the course of that
search, I learned that my birthmother married a pro football
player with whom she had a son and a daughter, and that one
or both are gay. My half brother was born in 1969, and
my half
sister was born in 1975. Both mom and sister are social workers. Mom
is no longer married to the football player, and she is
currently married to a physician with five stepchildren, all
of whom I believe are adults now. Mom would currently be
about 61 years old.
I was born
in Florida, where the records are sealed unless both parties
consent. All I have to go on is what mom told the social
worker when she called and said she did not want to be
found, and then proceeded to talk for an hour and a half. I
think it might be time for us all to come out! While I
respect my birthmother’s decision to not be found, I feel
that as adults, my half siblings and I have the right to
determine on our own whether we want a relationship or
not. But first, they have to know I exist. It wouldn’t be a
bad thing for mom to unburden her soul either, but she needs
to make that decision on her own, and so, for now, I’m just
looking for my siblings. My intent is not to harm, but to
enrich.
If any of
you know a 38-year-old gay son of a famous pro football
player with a 32-year-old sister, please get in touch. They
deserve to know I exist, and I would like the opportunity to
meet someone related to me for the first time in my life.
Editor's
note: Susan Guest contacted us in July and asked for our
help in locating her siblings. She was adopted, and one of
the few hints she has gotten about her family is that one of
her half-siblings is gay and is the children of a
famous football player. If you have any leads or
information, please